Where Friendship didnt matter.. as much animore.
Right i was doing physics. Half way thru this thing strucked me and i really have to write it down b4 i forget abt it.
Right out of the oven we have the definations for acquaintances, friends and buddies
1)Friend: A person whom one knows, likes, and trusts
2)Acquaintance: A relationship based on such knowledge
3)Buddy:A good friend
There's so much tat i wan to say tat i really didnt know where to begin.
I guess i'll start from wad Guansheng once wrote in his blog, "the preference for friends changes with time." Tho it doesnt really stand in parallel to wad im trying to bring abt, the essential pt remains.
While i once thought of finding friends who i can have for a life time. I mean seriously LIFELONG FRIENDS(u stay together every single second). I begin to realise it didnt really exist at the first place.
I can really back this up with the sentence "people come and go". I can quote examples. Jocelyn. The only reason why i can be close to her now is purely becos im in the same class with her. Nothing more. I dun really recall us being tat close when i was in Sec school. And i am sure things will die down once we part after Jcs.
Yzeyang and Guansheng. These 2 fellas have been a hell of a company, at least for the pass 6 yrs(8 to be exact for YY). But wad does the future hold? Seriously do u think we will be as close after we attended NS? Will tat still be the case when we go to the U, graduate with a job... ect...
Basically my pt here is tat the people u may be close with now are rather... oriented by factors such as chance, preference and even time. It's as simply as this. People u can spend enuf time to trust and like, they're called Friends(cheewee ect). People who u spent more time with, of which u had more chances to know dem better, Buddies(For now Guansheng yzeyang joce ect). People whom u recognise, acquaintances u'll call dem(u know who im refering to, esp those in Innova).
To get this straight im not saying im gonna stop making friends since everyting seems to look so fake(tho its true) by the way i put it. Its lyk, sometimes there's no use trying to keep a friendship when it seriously unsustainable(due to the factors mentioned). On the contrary, wad i tried to make myself believe is tat we shld really open our social space to people. Due to the factors mentioned, the whole cycle of meeting acquaintances, having friends and finally finding buddies repeats itself all the time in our entire life.
However i must say, buddies u knew in the past are still buddies when the time and chance factor allows one to meet. A cool grp of primary schoolmates can once in a while sit by a pub, drink to their hearts fill, talking abt stuffs tat dey undeerwent after so many years apart. U get wad i mean.
Lifelong companionship doesnt apply for friends. Perhaps the dictionary shld make the defination of friends sound like this, "people whom u know and can trust, in a period of time" Perhaps the reason why so many females(hint) didnt really like guys for a buddy, is simply becos, they need potential spouses(afterall i feel that they are a grp who desperately wans to get married), not guy friends. Right. i guess the only lifelong companion u can probably find would be ur family(ur concorts siblings parents...)
However the analysis shld only end here. One must be happy with wad he/she has now. For all the things he possess(now) will soon be a vestige in his memories.
Im happy to have u guys in my life, for now. Thank you my buddies. Before everything ends....
